Our core values are empowerment and community education. Planning a exit from an abusive relationship is a necessary and important step when thinking of breaking the ties with your abuser.

• THE PLAN - PHASE 1 #1. Decide to leave #2. Numb your feelings so you will not lose focus
• #3. Set an escape date DO NOT TELL ANYONE **If you have a healthy relationship with your parents you can tell them as the date gets closer but don't go into details.**
• #4. Do not change your routine. Any change will raise suspicion
• #5. Think of three places 30+ miles away where you want to go. Then pick the second place **Make sure it is not somewhere he/she knows about**
• #6. Erase escape-related Google search history several times a day but always maintain general content in case they check REMEMBER, do not tell anyone - IT CAN SAVE YOUR LIFE
• #7. ONLY If it is safe, go visit places you are thinking of moving to
• #8. Pack a GO bag and hide it somewhere safe but not anywhere he/she would expect
• THE PLAN - PHASE 2 #1. Start shredding old documents and donating old clothes ONLY a little at a time
• #2. If your job has multiple locations in different States, ask for a transfer or to switch to a different shift
• #3. Once you secure a new place inform the new property manager you are escaping and need to put special protections on your file
• #4. When new utility service is established, add extra passwords on all new utilities (Cellphone, Electricity, Water, Renters/Homeowners/Car Insurance, Cable/Internet) #5. If you have school-aged children (including college) put restrictions on their file so information will only be shared with you #6. If you are changing doctors, request copies of your records for personal use so that way they won't need to know who your new doctor is in case they know your ex.
• #7. This is not the time to be spiteful so please only take your possessions - you do not want Karma coming with you * At this point you should only have the clothes and documents you are keeping
• #8. Try to find a moving company that is dedicated to helping domestic violence victims * If you are unable to, when they arrive the day of inform them that you are escaping and need them to move you as quickly as possible. Also let them know that if your ex arrives before they are done to just leave and go to the new location.
• #9. Be prepared to walk away with clothes on your back if danger is imminent
• YOU CAN DO THIS! As GO DAY nears, you will be in a ball of emotions. You will second guess yourself, try to justify why you should stay, and even try to convince yourself that the abuse is not that bad. It is, however, THAT BAD!  We know how you feel. Your mind and your soul knows you know you deserve better, but your emotions refuse to read the memo! It is okay. You have come this far and you only have a little more ways to go. Survivors across the world are sending you love and strength as you Get the F#@% out with your life and start over.